When two people who have never actually met, and want to,what do you consider it to be? More women than men think of this as a "date" so, (usually) the man pays for the meal, since it more than likely is a lunch/dinner event. I call it a M & G simply because (since I usually meet someone over internet) we have never met and wish to "keep things light" (more gals don't offer to split the tab than do) like a drink or coffee. I'm not cheap, just careful on how I spend my time & $. Peace To All!
When two people who have never actually met, and want to,what do you consider it to be? More women than men think of this as a "date" so, (usually) the man pays for the meal, since it more than likely is a lunch/dinner event. I call it a M & G simply because (since I usually meet someone over internet) we have never met and wish to "keep things light" (more gals don't offer to split the tab than do) like a drink or coffee. I'm not cheap, just careful on how I spend my time & $. Peace To All!
Redhead and 5Ten: I completely agree and have experienced the same. I also hear over and over from "relationship experts" that the woman should not even OFFER to pay or share the tab for the first 3 meetings. They say exactly what you do, that most men will take it as a message that you don't want to continue seeing them, and many of them are offended because men have that pride thing about being able to take care of "the family" or whatever.
Redhead and 5Ten: I completely agree and have experienced the same. I also hear over and over from "relationship experts" that the woman should not even OFFER to pay or share the tab for the first 3 meetings. They say exactly what you do, that most men will take it as a message that you don't want to continue seeing them, and many of them are offended because men have that pride thing about being able to take care of "the family" or whatever.
again we are on the same page however I like to get things understood before we actualy meet.
The who, what, when, how much, For me it,s each pays 4 his own bill , on the frst and maybe even second get together.I have six Brothers no sisters so I really understand men on this,
again we are on the same page however I like to get things understood before we actualy meet.
The who, what, when, how much, For me it,s each pays 4 his own bill , on the frst and maybe even second get together.I have six Brothers no sisters so I really understand men on this,
I'm all for Coffee 1st, gives us both a chance without investing too much time/money...If we start doing the Dinner thing I'm more than willing for trad offs in paying the check, Fair is fair...Etc...Still love the guy to open the door & hold my chair, But I work as hard as he does & enjoy the fruits of my labor, Why can't my date...
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I'm all for Coffee 1st, gives us both a chance without investing too much time/money...If we start doing the Dinner thing I'm more than willing for trad offs in paying the check, Fair is fair...Etc...Still love the guy to open the door & hold my chair, But I work as hard as he does & enjoy the fruits of my labor, Why can't my date...
Auntie: Good for you. I wish the gals I had meet & those yet to meet would heed your words. Again, it's just refreshing this attitude is reflected on a first "M & G"/date from internet contact. After this 1st meet, than it's more often up to the guy to buy since he's interested in seeing more of the gal.
Auntie: Good for you. I wish the gals I had meet & those yet to meet would heed your words. Again, it's just refreshing this attitude is reflected on a first "M & G"/date from internet contact. After this 1st meet, than it's more often up to the guy to buy since he's interested in seeing more of the gal.
Hi - I don't think the man has to pay on the 'get acquainted' date. I always either put up my $ or i pay for the drinks. I don't do this to up the man but to show that i don't expect him to pay. Even on future dates i will snag the bill by having him talking or signaling the waiter to bring me the check.
Hi - I don't think the man has to pay on the 'get acquainted' date. I always either put up my $ or i pay for the drinks. I don't do this to up the man but to show that i don't expect him to pay. Even on future dates i will snag the bill by having him talking or signaling the waiter to bring me the check.
Good topic. Yes, I have met a number of gals on the inernet, met at restaurants, and I bought the whole two dinners. The catch in this. I drive a 30 year old car, am low income, and they were driving new vehicles, even SUV's, and had good paying careers. Nevertheless, I have alway had the gentlemanly policy, of, the gentleman pays all, the first date. Even, when I know i have been rejected. The feminists may or may not like this , but, maybe some "outdated", "old fashioned" lady, and gentlemanliness, is badly needed in this confused age!!
Good topic. Yes, I have met a number of gals on the inernet, met at restaurants, and I bought the whole two dinners. The catch in this. I drive a 30 year old car, am low income, and they were driving new vehicles, even SUV's, and had good paying careers. Nevertheless, I have alway had the gentlemanly policy, of, the gentleman pays all, the first date. Even, when I know i have been rejected. The feminists may or may not like this , but, maybe some "outdated", "old fashioned" lady, and gentlemanliness, is badly needed in this confused age!!
Hi Gold, I find your take on the "date" vs "M & G" interesting. When I've offered to split the tab in the past (on more than one occasion), I'm told I'm not being feminine or I'm given the impression that I've offended my date. I guess it just depends on each person's perception. I think it's a gesture of interest when a man picks up the tab on a date. Anyone else have a contribution to this? Imfiveten
Hi Gold, I find your take on the "date" vs "M & G" interesting. When I've offered to split the tab in the past (on more than one occasion), I'm told I'm not being feminine or I'm given the impression that I've offended my date. I guess it just depends on each person's perception. I think it's a gesture of interest when a man picks up the tab on a date. Anyone else have a contribution to this? Imfiveten
