Quoting TrulyStephanie:

I feel much of it boils down to what we "think" we want, and what we actually "do" want... It is hard enough trying to show a true intimacy in person, I can't imagine it's any easier to write it. I personally fear sounding (or writing) to openly, and to honestly... Many of us have been in relationships, and we have come to learn what it is we do and do not want in our next... It is hard to find a mate or a partner that is able to express their needs, their wants, and their desires... without being really vulnerable to others.
And, that really scares people. To put ourselves, really put ourselves out there for others to look at...
I think also, that it could be one word, or one statement that we do not understand, and do not wish to find out more about what that person means... Or maybe, it really boils down to the visual, if we are not attracted to the person who has winked/contacted us, or the person we have winked/contacted, is not attracted to us...
It could be really that simple... projected image...

I feel much of it boils down to what we "think" we want, and what we actually "do" want... It is hard enough trying to show a true intimacy in person, I can't imagine it's any easier to write it. I personally fear sounding (or writing) to openly, and to honestly... Many of us have been in relationships, and we have come to learn what it is we do and do not want in our next... It is hard to find a mate or a partner that is able to express their needs, their wants, and their desires... without being really vulnerable to others.
And, that really scares people. To put ourselves, really put ourselves out there for others to look at...
I think also, that it could be one word, or one statement that we do not understand, and do not wish to find out more about what that person means... Or maybe, it really boils down to the visual, if we are not attracted to the person who has winked/contacted us, or the person we have winked/contacted, is not attracted to us...
It could be really that simple... projected image...