Quoting CHAR1967:

Soul searching, I too have many Friends who have or had settled. I'm 39 do have a child by a man I loved but new I would never truly be happy with. For him the grass was always greener & I'm the type that when I commit it's beyond 100 percent
I knew that if we married he would slowly kill my spirit & I'm too much a free one to let that happen. That said the time I have spent on my own & in brief relationships has made me realize who I am & what I need. My parents were married for 38 years when she passed & although they had there moments there was no doubt that they loved each other & yes I believe were each others Soul mates. I also believe that there is that someone out there who is mine. I'm in no hurry, Will not rush into anything unless it's real. My life is rich & full. I love who I am and have no regrets about past loves. I know he is out there as surly as he knows I am. hang in there...Life is for loving & why not with that person that touches your soul....

Soul searching, I too have many Friends who have or had settled. I'm 39 do have a child by a man I loved but new I would never truly be happy with. For him the grass was always greener & I'm the type that when I commit it's beyond 100 percent
I knew that if we married he would slowly kill my spirit & I'm too much a free one to let that happen. That said the time I have spent on my own & in brief relationships has made me realize who I am & what I need. My parents were married for 38 years when she passed & although they had there moments there was no doubt that they loved each other & yes I believe were each others Soul mates. I also believe that there is that someone out there who is mine. I'm in no hurry, Will not rush into anything unless it's real. My life is rich & full. I love who I am and have no regrets about past loves. I know he is out there as surly as he knows I am. hang in there...Life is for loving & why not with that person that touches your soul....

Quoting 2tallgary:

We live in the most materialistic, spoiled, money loving, stressful, media-bombarded time, ever, and love is waxing cold. It takes more self-denial, and sacrifice, now. Also, we are bombarded by the "you have to have somebody" idea. I used to be, motivated all of the time, that "I have to find someone, or I am a loser", if I don't ever get married. Now, I realize, that I am me, whether single, or married, and, I was never ready for marriage career wise, or housing wise. Today, it is MUCH harder, to get married, and stay there, than during THE GREAT DEPRESSION days. People did not need so much unnecessary materialism, were willing to wait many years, to own a house, or rent an apartment. Modern American society works against marriage working. In poor countries, ppeople expect less, survive, stay together.

We live in the most materialistic, spoiled, money loving, stressful, media-bombarded time, ever, and love is waxing cold. It takes more self-denial, and sacrifice, now. Also, we are bombarded by the "you have to have somebody" idea. I used to be, motivated all of the time, that "I have to find someone, or I am a loser", if I don't ever get married. Now, I realize, that I am me, whether single, or married, and, I was never ready for marriage career wise, or housing wise. Today, it is MUCH harder, to get married, and stay there, than during THE GREAT DEPRESSION days. People did not need so much unnecessary materialism, were willing to wait many years, to own a house, or rent an apartment. Modern American society works against marriage working. In poor countries, ppeople expect less, survive, stay together.

Quoting Vasilios:

Dear Soul searching...It is my belief and hope that there is a "soulmate" for everybody and I feel that many many people have settled for reasons that they feel are right for them at the point in time when they did get married. You are right that the chances of getting divorced are very high but the chances of finding your "soulmate" are even higher, which i think is the reason that most people as you say settle. I belive that you are not fooling yourself if you seek your soulmate for the rewards are probably beyond compare and afterall....why not reach for the stars...it is afterall your choice.

Blessings to you and all you care for.

Peace 4Life.

Vasilis

Dear Soul searching...It is my belief and hope that there is a "soulmate" for everybody and I feel that many many people have settled for reasons that they feel are right for them at the point in time when they did get married. You are right that the chances of getting divorced are very high but the chances of finding your "soulmate" are even higher, which i think is the reason that most people as you say settle. I belive that you are not fooling yourself if you seek your soulmate for the rewards are probably beyond compare and afterall....why not reach for the stars...it is afterall your choice.

Blessings to you and all you care for.

Peace 4Life.

Vasilis